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Being a mom of 5 daughters can come with its challenges. One of them is creating quality time for each of my children. I need to make sure that each child feels special and feels like they have mom and dad’s undivided attention at times. Between school, work, meals, after-school activities, and church responsibilities, time seems to slip away for other things.
My husband and I want our children to feel comfortable talking to us about anything. We want and crave that relationship of open communication and trust. To earn that, we’re going to have to put forth the effort, too. Since I have all girls, I feel like I even need to put in double the effort. They are all daddy’s girls, and I don’t want to be a cliché of mom and daughter constantly butting heads.
One thing we’ve started implementing in our family is giving each child a day of the month to spend quality time with either mom or dad. It’s their choice which one they want to spend time with, and it often changes each month. We choose the day based on their birthday. So if they were born on January 23rd, then the 23rd of each month is “their day.” That way the day is set, it’s not shared with anyone else (everyone happened to have been born on a different day of the month), and there are no excuses to miss it.
This does not mean they get 12 birthdays a year. Sometimes the activities are small, even just reading a book together. But the important part is undivided attention. No phones or siblings to interrupt. We go to the movies, out to dinner, stay up past a bedtime to get ice cream, take a walk, watch a movie at home, play a board game, have a dance party, or make a video together. This is my time to bond with my daughter. And we talk about things that matter when she’s ready.
This month one of my daughters chose to watch Miracles From Heaven with me for her day. She had heard about it from her older sister who watched it. She got to go with me to Walmart, pick out the movie, and grab some snacks, too. What an amazing story. This was a good opportunity for us to chat about the movie, too.
We talked about the Beam family and how they overcame their trials. My daughter said that the mom, Christy Beam, reminded her of me. She said she knew I would never give up and would fight to get her better if she was sick. It made me happy to know that she knew I would always be in her corner.
One of my favorite lines from Miracles From Heaven is when Christy tells Annabel, “There’s so many things I don’t know, but I know God loves you.” Sometimes I don’t know what to say to my children. Sometimes I don’t have all the answers, but I do know God loves them, and that’s something I can always tell them with certainty.
If you want to watch something with the whole family that will lift your spirits and fill you with love and faith, then I recommend Miracles From Heaven. Also when you buy the Miracles From Heaven DVD, $1 of your purchase will be donated to the Children’s Miracle Network. So you’re doing good, too. Another quality I want to pass on to my kids.
We teach our children that family is everything. It’s so important to us and to them to know they have people they can always count on. Another great line from the movie is when the doctor who is helping Annabel says, “Her family is the best medicine right now.” That’s what parent/daughter dates do for our family. It shows them we value them, and that we want to have fun with them! I love the smiles on their faces when they wake up knowing it’s their day. When they’ve had a tough time at school, practice or even at home, then quite often family is the best medicine.